G is for Gender?

When I think of men vs. women, I always wonder how this division came about and what it really means.

Gender is a construction in an attempt to create order and define different groups of human beings. But how can we possibly define genders with the amount of gender bending going on? What springs to my mind is "transgender". How can you possibly attempt to define someone who has made the transition from one gender to another? How can you define what gender someone is when they feel they don't fit into a category? What if you identify with both? Can you imagine not fitting in because you don't feel your physical attributes contribute to the definition of who you are?

Gender only serves to pit humans against other humans due to their differences. Gender attempts to dictate how you dress, how you rebel, your acceptable careers, your movements, your gestures, your eating habits... You name it. In order to achieve equality, gender will need to disappear. But this means that all sorts of words will also need to disappear. Man, woman, he, she, mother, father, aunt, uncle, daughter, son, grandmother, grandfather, girl, boy, niece, nephew, husband, wife. (You get the idea.)

But how would our societies be able to function without these words that we've been using for so long? Judith Butler says that these gendered words includes all sorts of societal influences which oppress said genders. I agree, but I always come back to the question, How? How would you control the words that come out of 7 billion mouths?

The only thing that we can do in order to amend this "gender mystique" is to include more gendered terms. We need to apply new terms to people who can't be defined by the tradition man/woman terms. Perhaps the road we need to take is not one of extermination of gender terms, but inclusivity.